Screen Time For Kids: What Are The Limits?
OK, let’s be real here: parents these days are busier than ever. I am living it right now. Between work, keeping the house from looking like a tornado hit, and trying to maintain a social life (ha!), it’s tempting to just hand your kid a tablet and get some peace. But the debate over screen time for kids is definitely there, especially with a co-parenting situation where there are differing approaches. Trust me, I am feeling that right now.
Thankfully while I am not smart, there are several sources from pediatricians to scientists who study the brains of kids and what we should (and shouldn’t) be doing. So, let’s tackle it.
2 and Under: Unless It’s Big Bird, Probably Not
For the teeny little ones, screen time for kids should be as rare as a full night’s sleep. Experts suggest avoiding screens altogether for this age group. Obviously, you’re going to have them watch something, but make it thoughtful and lively like Sesame Street, and not some random YouTube video you haven’t vetted.
Babies’ brains are developing at warp speed, and they need to be stimulated by real-life experiences, not flashing lights and catchy jingles. Trust me, no app is going to teach them how to stack blocks or say their first word better than you can. We know you have to finish that thing for work, but your kid needs you.
2-5 Years Old: And It Begins…
Ah, the preschool years, where curiosity and tantrums are at an all-time high. For this age group, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends you ramp up to no more than one hour of screen time per day. Again, the good stuff, not a video of some gamer trying to see how far a cadaver flies out of a car in Grand Theft Auto – yeah that exists.
Here’s an idea… maybe have the kids get outside and get some physical activity (if it isn’t scorching hot), get creative play like Duplo or Lego and face-to-face interactions.
5-12 Years Old: And It Continues…
School-aged kids are tricky because they’re now using screens for educational purposes, right? Sure, but it’s still crucial to set boundaries. The general guideline is to ramp it up to two hours per day of recreational screen time. Maybe less when it comes to school nights.
Obviously homework doesn’t count, so you can breathe a sigh of relief there. But at this point your kids are meeting other kids and learning about games. Let them play (supervised of course, never in a room away from you) but use the parent monitoring built into the operating system to cut it off.
Teenagers: The Ultimate Test of Willpower
Teenagers and screens are like peanut butter and jelly; they just go together. But even here, limits are essential. The recommended screen time for kids in this age group is still under two hours of recreational use daily. I’ll wait for you to stop laughing.
Yeah, it is tough to get your kid to do this. This time is more focused on making sure they are getting “well fed” on that phone you bought them and not droning away watching an algorithm that makes them feel terrible.
Sure, they might roll their eyes at you, but one day they’ll thank you. That’s how I’m handling it with my 5 and 7 year old, but we’ll see how this holds up when they reach those teenage years.
Less Screen Time For Kids Means Less Screen Time For You
In the end, managing screen time for kids is all about balance and setting a good example. If they see you glued to your phone, they’ll want to do the same. So, mom and/or dad, maybe be that guiding light. Put the phone down. Be a parent. They will grow up way too fast and you will regret playing Candy Crush over playing patty cake.
For people “of a certain age”, you remember what it was like before screens and the internet took over our lives. Give your kid an opportunity to live that reality too.