An Open Letter To The Absent Dad Who Made My Husband A Better Father
You are my husband’s biological father. You helped create him but you did nothing more than that.
You weren’t there for the early mornings and late nights. You weren’t there to coach his little league… teach him to throw a ball be a gentleman or tie a tie.
Though my husband didn’t have you to teach him how to be a dad or a husband you should know, he has done both jobs flawlessly. Live and learn.
He wasn’t able to celebrate you on Father’s Day… it was probably a sad day for him. But know that he is celebrated in the most special way on Father’s Day and every day.
You may have made him feel ‘not good enough’ but know that our sons make him feel like a hero. Their hero.
The coaching, the teaching, the life lessons, he does it all.
And that’s the part that I find most interesting. That though you were never there to teach him he still knew what to do and how to do it the very best.
Wherever you are, however, you are, I am not mad at you.
He is who he is because of you leaving. He is an independent man because of you leaving and he knew exactly who he didn’t want to be because of you leaving.
I want you to know that your missing from his life was a twisted blessing.
He knew how his mom felt doing it on her own, he knew how he felt missing you and wondering why you left and he knew from a young age that nobody he loved would ever feel that way!
Because wherever you are I know it is truly your loss that you didn’t have the honor of raising an incredible man.
I watch him every single day be the dad that he never had.
You aren’t here and never have been but I want to thank you for that.
Yes, my family and I may carry your name but it’s our name now and the name has a whole new meaning.